Am I being selfish by not telling people the names I chose for my baby?

With every pregnancy people are curious as to what the sex of the baby is and now they want to know the name. I don't want to disclose it cause I dont need any opinions. Am I being unfair?

Am I being selfish by not telling people the names I chose for my baby?
Just tell them you haven't decided yet. Then change the subject.
Reply:No, you are being very smart. Do you really want to hear everyone's opinions? Do you want to have to justify the name or explain why you chose it over and over?





Two of my coworkers are pregnant and neither will tell people at work the names they have picked out. One thinks it's a jinx to tell people before the birth, and the other told her mother in law, who hated the name, and decided she wasn't going to mention it to anyone else because she is already sure she is going to use the name.
Reply:your not being selfish or unfair, when i told my family what i wanted to name my daughter i got mixed signals, and mother in law, was like well how about this name, and was just listing a bunch of names, and i'm like no, this is the name i like. And let me tell you, up until i had my daughter, my mother in law would call me all the time when she thought of a different name. next time it will be a surprise. I might let everyone know what the sex is, for gifts. good luck ans congrats on being preg!
Reply:God no! I highly recommend NOT telling people the name because everyone has an opinion (and they will think you care to hear it).





I am pregnant with my first and didn't know how people would be so I told everyone the name when they asked. Well, its been nothing but an issue in my family ever since and I can't seem to hear the end of "he will get beaten up with a name like that" "we need to find him a suitable nickname" "he's going to hate you for naming him that". Its a perfectly good name though we think. Not common (like Michael or Alex) but not totally out there either.





I'm pregnant though, and don't need or want the added stress at this point.





My advice though is to just keep it to yourself until the baby is born.
Reply:I think you're being very smart. 1. People do steal names %26amp; 2. People like to force their opinions on people especially when it comes to baby names. I'm not pregnant and people are already telling me they don't like my names and give me a bunch of names I never asked for or are just plain rude. When I do get pregnant in the future I'm keeping my mouth shut.
Reply:I've done the same thing with both of my kids. I don't want to hear people trash my names and I don't want to get pressured to "honor" my MIL who is undeserving.





Everyone will find out the name eventually. They can be patient for a few more months. Just tell them you are undecided still if you don't want to come outright and say you're not sharing. Prepare for a ton of suggestions, but just smile and nod.
Reply:Nope. I will do the same thing. I don't want anyone's opinion on the name I ACTUALLY plan to use for my child. I've had it picked out since before I MET my husband, and lucky (for him) he likes it too...That's gonna be it and I don't want to hear what they think of it!





It's not selfish at all- it's just being protective of the name. Lets face it- people DO steal baby names! You're just fine.
Reply:I am doing the same thing. No, you are not being unfair. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for not disclosing your baby's name before the birth. I mostly don't want to share because 1. I don't want someone to steal my name and 2. I don't want to hear people tell me they don't like it.





IT'S YOUR CHOICE AND DECISION!!!
Reply:no of course not. its your child. no one has to know. if they think its selfish and unfair, then they are pathetic. you have every right to keep the sex and name to yourself until your baby is born. that way it will be a surprise for every one.
Reply:I think it's up to you if you want to share it. They will know soon enoug what the name will be, and tney will know the name of the kid for the rest of his/her life. I it's important to you, keep it to yourself.
Reply:No you're not being selfish. I think sometimes other people are being selfish when they try to force their unsolicited opinions on you. By not disclosing names your avoiding those types of situations.
Reply:No. Actually, I think it is better you don't tell family your baby names, because they might try and talk you out of it, or give you doubts.
Reply:no not at all, you will have ppl tell you they don't like it and what not and want you to change it. If you don't want to tell anyone then don't
Reply:Not at all. It's up to you to share whatever you want throughout your pregnancy. Don't let people pressure you into telling them.
Reply:Of course not! It's great not to tell people. What's there for them to be excited about if they already know the sex and name of the baby?


Keep them waiting!
Reply:No.Just tell them it will be a surprise if its someone you know if not just say we are in the process of choosing a name.
Reply:whether you tell them now or not there will still be opinions so in my opinion whats the point in teh secrecy? but its entirely your choice and they will just have to wait.
Reply:Not unfair. It differs with every person. Some like to hear opinions and some don't.
Reply:No, not at all, it is your baby.
Reply:no....just tell them its all apart of the surprise when the baby comes ;)
Reply:I think you are being unfair. Honestly if you already chose the name you want for your child, none of their opinions should even matter to you.


They would just like to share in your happiness and know if its gonna be a baby boy or girl. I would just tell them. Most people wont give their opinions.